Hello folks!
Just wanted to start by explaining the title of my blog: "How am I Still Single?" I hope anyone who reads this would know me well enough to know I'm joking. I get this question from well-meaning people fairly frequently, and every time I go into a little personality crisis: "Am I okay? What's wrong with me? Will I ever find love or let it find me?" (I'm a girl and we think like that sometimes.) Well, I used to go to the temple and do initiatories every week. Since I went the same day and time each week, I got to know some of the workers pretty well. Inevitably, one of them would ask me the Question, and I'd just smile and say something like "you're so nice," but one day I felt a little irritated. I didn't say it out loud, but when this sweet elderly lady said "you're just so beautiful. How are you still single?" I thought "how are you still married, asking stupid questions like that?" I know. I was disappointed in myself, too.
I grew up in Utah, reading fairy tales that end "happily ever after", aka: with a wedding. Most of my family and friends over the age of 23 are married. I graduated from BYU, I served a mission, and I actively attend my LDS singles ward. I'm 29 and single, and to quote Diane Keaton in Father of the Bride 2, "I don't think that qualifies me for the Book of World Records."
I would like to be married, and hopefully someday I will be. Until then, I am trying to take some advice from Elder Dallin H. Oaks's now infamous 2005 CES Fireside talk: "If you are just marking time waiting for a marriage prospect, stop waiting. You may never have the opportunity for a suitable marriage in this life, so stop waiting and start moving. Prepare yourself for life—even a single life—by education, experience, and planning. Don’t wait for happiness to be thrust upon you. Seek it out in service and learning. Make a life for yourself. And trust in the Lord. Your dedication of a lifetime should follow King Benjamin’s advice to be “calling on the name of the Lord daily, and standing steadfastly in the faith of that which is to come” (Mosiah 4:11)."
The desire to be loved crosses all gender, historical, and cultural boundaries, along with the desire to see those that we love in a healthy relationship. I want to thank all of the people who love me enough to ask the Question, because I know you just want me to be happy. I apologize if I'm ever defensive. (I would also like to thank all those who meet a great guy and think "I should set him up with Megan!" Whether the guy and I actually go out or not, it is such a powerful compliment to know that 1 - you trust me to not make you look bad with whoever this guy is, 2 - that you think of me at all, and 3 - that you think I'd be a good match for a great guy!) I love you, and am grateful for your friendship, amazing example, and support.
Phew! Glad to have that over.
5 comments:
Doesn't it just feel so great to get things out in the open?
Hurray! I'm so glad you started a blog! I was just thinking last week that I needed to start bugging you about it. :)
You know, if you graduate from BYU and you're not married, you get your tuition money back. :) heehee!! Love you Megs! Thanks for being open and honest.
Yea! I'm so glad that you're blogging. Thank you for your humor, honesty, and cute personality. Congratulations on your blog!
LOL...you are so funny! I love it! This will be fun getting to know you better. :^)
Oh, and with the whole married thing...it doesn't get any better once you're married. Then people ask when you're going to have kids. Then once you have one they tell you it's about time for another one. Either that or they look at your 3 year old and you can see that they're thinking you're some awful person for not having another one by now. Yeah...people like that don't go away once you get married.
Oh, and can I tell you that seeing a picture I took on someone else's blog is just weird and really cool at the same time. :^)
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