Not a day goes by that -- for one reason or another -- I don't heave a great sigh and think: "I am a terrible friend."
Relationships are complicated. Social media makes it worse. Is so-and-so not returning my texts and calls because she's mad? Did I make it worse by calling and apologizing when I don't know if she really is mad? Why hasn't she called me back since unless she IS mad? Was that passive-agressive message on Facebook from another so-and-so meant for me?
I vowed a while back that I wouldn't post anything for the masses on social media that I haven't already talked over with the person involved. I've started and deleted a lot of posts with that promise in mind. I wish more people would make that vow.
I'm not a perfect person. The fact is, sometimes I am a terrible friend.
The hard part is forgiving myself, and hoping that the other people forgive me, too, when they are ready.
The guessing game just makes it worse :P
The sooner I stop worrying about what other people think about me, the happier I will be... or will I?
Aren't we supposed to care about the feelings of the people we love?
Gah! And now I'm right back where I started: "I am a terrible friend."
I must do better.
3 comments:
You are NOT a terrible friend. The approach I take to those passive-aggressive posts is this:
If someone has a problem with me they need to come to me, not their wall. Otherwise it is not my problem, but theirs.
Plus hiding feeds helps, too.
Love you!!
I second Kristen and love her reaction to 'those' posts. You're a great friend and I'm glad I know you! :-)
You are an amazing friend! always light up my life. sorry people can be difficulty :(
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